With the passing of time, every human being not only gains number of years, but also something more important, that is called "knowledge". The first one is by default, the second one is by choice. I don't know if the choice is a part of growing up or is something we develop for our own convenience. I have lived a part of my life in which I did not have connections with lots of old friends, of my so called "school days". With the advance of social networking, I could get in touch with long lost people. After the initial..."Heys..and Oh my Goshes"...we start finding the subtle differences in them. Actually we, as a person have changed to, but to our own eyes, they have. We start comparing the past friend and this friend who is supposed be the same person but with a new persona. Then is when our thoughts change. Some of the people I knew have moved with time, in other words "matured", and some have distorted their thought process into such a narrow tunnel, that they have squeezed out the essence of moving with time. I may be the one with the wrong views, but at least don't sit and shake my head and pass judgement on others.
The whole aspect of us moving with time is a very relative factor. Each human being has a different pace, a different outlook and a different environment to implement their development procedures. Who am I to judge that, and I humbly accept the fact. Even then there are few basic things we all go through and we all do have to accept the change of time and the generation's thoughts. The biggest example is the whole concept of a female having a real good male friend. When I grew up it was a total "no-no" in that particular field, although I had a few friends who happen to be good and were male. It was deemed as a huge wrong doing on my part by not only some of those obnoxious family members but also by some of my co-female friends. When I try to explain this to my teen-aged son, he looks at me as if I am talking Latin. He just can not comprehend what the halabalu is all about. The era is different and so is the thought.
Going back to the original topic, on my last visit to India, I was so taken aback by a comment made by one of my batch mates, that I started to rethink my friendship with her. We had a small get-together at a friend's place and as I have live out of the country for so long, am a total lost soul in the city, my other batch-mate (male), volunteered to pick me up. Once at the party, this particular friend of mine quizzed me, who picked me up, did I come alone, does my husband know that I came to this party with a guy, and questions that she should keep her nose out of. First two questions I answered without even thinking anything, but at the third I was stumped. I kept staring at her in disbelief, could not believe she was asking me this. Had it been anyone else I would have blurted out "mind your f*****g business", but this was one of the girls I went to school with, and in fact over there all were of the same batch. This is when realization hit me, "omg", she is still stuck in that era and has not been able to broaden her spectrum. After few seconds of anger, I felt pity for her. She must be having such a difficult life, to be facing all these changes in male-female relationships with her distorted and backdated views of life. When I confided this to my male friend and my volunteer escort, they just laughed and said, "there are many like her, only you have not met them all".
Maturity and moving with time is a wise and the may be, the better thing to have and do, but for those who can not or are not allowed to do so, life must be a struggle everyday. May be it keep the variety of human beings on this earth still alive, as I really want to feel positive and let the time take its toll.
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